Rule #9: Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.

Chapter 9 is all about conversation.
Peterson first makes the important distinction between advice and
genuine conversation. He believes good conversation involves
“exploration, articulation and strategizing” as well as a healthy dose of
careful listening.

Building off the previous chapter, he explains that at the heart of any good
relationship is honesty.

So if two individuals are communicating with
honesty – both to themselves and each other – the conversation is valuable.

He is quick to caution the reader that…
“Not all talking is thinking. Nor does all listening foster transformation.

There are other motives for both, some of which produce much less
valuable, counterproductive, and even dangerous outcomes.” –
Jordan Peterson

In other words, not all communication is created equal. Peterson gives a good example of
someone who is simply using
discussion as a tool to establish dominance or to win an argument (for no
other reason than winning).
One of the helpful keys Peterson offers in this chapter is the idea of
“mutual exploration” within the context of conversation that involves “true
Good conversations are as much about listening as talking, because
listening is learning.
This type of discussion – where both parties are equally able to speak and
to listen – “allows all participants to express and organize their thoughts”.

What a gift in the context of human relationship to hear and be heard.

Rule #9 Summary:
“[Good] conversation [is] the best preparation for proper living.” –
Jordan Peterson

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